How do I find a good man? How do I find a good woman?

As a coach I do cover most life issues with my clients, however as my specialisation is relationship coaching, I find that the many delights of dating come up quite regularly. The question… How do I find a good man? How do I find a good woman? springs up regularly, cries of ‘all the best ones are taken’, or ‘there are no good ones left’, is a common thread.

The idea that you need to dedicate time to finding a partner is quite alien to most people. When job hunting you would spend time preparing a good CV, scouring the internet for job opportunities and basically putting  yourself on the map. Sitting back and waiting for the world to come to you is not going to work, it’s all a question of being pro active.

Why should looking for a partner be any different? We have an abundance of Internet dating sites full of singles looking to meet new people. Preparing your profile is like writing a mini CV and by uploading it you are putting yourself on the dating map.

What about letting things happen naturally… bumping into someone in the supermarket, a casual conversation in a coffee shop, of course, wonderful, if meeting your future partner happens this way. However being on a dating website doesn’t preclude this from happening, you could even argue that by being  more in tune to potential dates  you will attract people to you…

There was a time when the concept of Internet dating was considered an act of desperation or at best the very last resort, however times have changed and it has become an accepted and successful way to open up your dating world. As you would work on your CV to present yourself in the best way possible the same applies for your profile, as you would with a job, be quite clear on what your looking for while all the while being open to the unexpected….

Perseverance and positivity are essential to success in Internet dating, also as with anything ,the more time you spend on something the better you get at it….

Give it a go….. it may open up your world….